It’s Not Just Good to Talk – It’s Essential
Men’s mental health has received growing attention in recent years, and rightly so. More men are speaking openly about their struggles, public campaigns are challenging outdated stereotypes, and conversations about mental wellbeing are becoming more common. However, the statistics show that there is still a long way to go.
In the UK, around 75% of all suicide deaths are men, and suicide remains the leading cause of death for men under the age of 50. Men are also significantly less likely to access psychological therapies, with only around 36% of referrals to NHS talking therapies being for men. Even though awareness is improving, many men continue to suffer in silence.
Many men grow up with messages that encourage them to be strong, independent, and self-reliant. While resilience is valuable, these expectations can make it difficult to admit when things feel overwhelming and reach out for support.
Walking Through the Door into Therapy
Walking through the door into therapy is tough.
Even when you recognise the value of talking to someone, taking that first step can be clouded with anxiety. Uncertainty about what to expect, shame that you’ve had to ask for support, belief ‘my problem isn’t big enough’ or anxieties about connecting with difficulties you have worked so hard to avoid or manage.
The truth is therapy can be uncomfortable. Yet, on the other hand, it provides a safe space to reflect on your experiences and navigate life’s challenges. The therapist takes time to listen, understand the reasons for making the brave decision to ask for support and will work with you to reach your goals.
Starting the Conversation
Talking about mental health will not solve every problem, but it can be the beginning of meaningful change. Seeking support is not a sign of weakness. It is a sign of courage. It takes strength to acknowledge that something is difficult and to make the decision to do something about it.
A conversation with a friend, family member, colleague, GP or therapist can help reduce isolation and remind us that we do not have to face life’s challenges alone. If you have been thinking about seeking support, remember you do not need to wait until things get worse. Reaching out is one of the most important steps you can take for your wellbeing.
Because it’s not just good to talk – it’s essential.
Dr Danielle Grey
Clinical Director of the Purple House Clinic
The Purple House Clinic Birmingham
www.purplehouseclinic.co.uk/birmingham
0121 820 7851
A big thank you to Danielle for sharing her expertise and writing this piece on men’s mental health. At Achieve Health, we believe that health is about more than just physical wellbeing, and we are passionate about supporting conversations that improve both physical and mental health. We appreciate Purple House helping us raise awareness around such an important topic.